Sometimes we choose to remain in a relationship that is toxic even though it can bring unwanted drama and trauma.
Toxic relationships can be detrimental to our physical and emotional health and can sometimes be hard to identify.
The foundations of any relationship are most commonly established upon mutual admiration and respect but can become unhealthy and toxic over time.
Here are five ways to identify a toxic relationship:
Lack of Trust
Without trust, a relationship cannot grow. Just like any other relationship, trust is a must and is something that is earned. Without trust, there is insecurity, fear of cheating, misunderstanding and also limiting the relationship’s potential. A relationship without trust is like a car without gas -you can stay in it all you want, but it will not go anywhere.
Lack of effort
One of the main things that determines if a relationship is really going to work is the effort put in to making it work. A healthy, happy, long-lasting relationship takes a lot of effort for both partners. Never let someone who contributes so little to a relationship control so much of it.
Passive-aggressive behavior
Usually someone being passive-aggressive means that he/she is either hiding true feelings or pretending to be someone he/she is not. Passive aggressive behavior is a deliberate and masked way of expressing feelings of anger.
Brings out your worst self
In a healthy relationship, you and your significant other should bring out the best in each other. If you feel as if you have become the worst version of yourself while in a relationship, it is usually a sign of its toxicity. Make sure that your partner is compatible with you because at the end of the day, you need someone who can be your cheerleader, friend and confidante. It is important to stay calm and stable while in a relationship.
Physical and verbal abuse is present
One of the most serious signs of a toxic relationship includes violence, abuse or harassment. This should be dealt with immediately. If you are a victim of domestic violence, please contact the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for further help.
A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down. It inspires you to be better. It is important to be aware of the signs of a toxic relationship. If you believe you are in one, take control of the situation and choose to focus on what is important in your life.
by Elizabeth Brooks
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